How do you?

Ok, so in this day and age everything has become more digital and electronic. Bills can be paid online, movies can be streamed online, and it is easier to stay in touch with people. That being said, when do you cut the ties with the said friends on Facebook? When do you say, enough is enough?

This issue has been on my mind lately, ever since my lab partners and I did a survey about Facebook for our psych lab. I realized that we depend on social networks more and more. For some, our lives revolve around them; we constantly update them, post our pictures, play games, set up events and yes of course, keep in touch. Everyone is always in the know of everyone else's business, and sometimes it's not official unless it's online, like relationship statuses (do not!!! get me started). Really though??

So, that being said, how do you delete someone that you're not friends with anymore? Do you just go through your friend list and delete people because you don't talk to them anymore (whether its online or offline), or do you delete people because they have pissed you off and you don't want to be friends with them? Because there are a couple of people, that I do not want in my life anymore; I (1) don't talk to them, (2) don't like them, (3) don't know them that well (but then why are we friends online in the first place? don't ask me), or (4) don't any reminders of them in my life (whether its online or off). Offline, I can't control if we run into each other or not, or if I happen to come across something that mentions them. But online, that's a different world and I CAN control with whom I come into contact with and I choose how much information I get to share with them.

The thing is, I like to go on their page and see what they're up too because I don't have any other way of communicating with them. Man, I don't know. But I would like to remove some "friends" off my friend list, be like... "GOOD GRIEF!! I CAN NOT STAND YOU!! DEUCES"... we shall see.. won't we?

Good Grief

You know how you think you're over something? And you pray about it, and tell yourself that its ok, its done and over with, and you're a stronger person, blah blah blah? And then something happens that makes you go (sayy wwhhhaattt?!?!) "outta character"? Yeah, well I just had one of those moments. Would you like to know what caused this? Of course. A nickname.

This guy, sweet and honest, genuine guy, called me by a name that I thought I would never hear again; I mean, it was kinda of weird and unexpected the first time I heard from someone else. But to hear it again? I know that I must sound totally bonkers and like a baby, "It's a name get over it." But when he called me this, I flipped out. Not necessarily on him, but to myself (we were talking on line) and to my friend who was on the phone. This name and I, have bad blood.

The person who gave me this nickname, was a very, very good friend of mine; meant alot to me. And it so happened that we're not friends anymore (we are on FB though, see the delete or not delete comes back). I don't know what happened. I tried talking and making contact; I guess they were done with me, done with our friendship. Whatever. It's just sad that I won't let this new guy (nothing major yet, relax, slow your rolls.. lol) call me by this name.. Does it matter? Why can't I? It hurts, has too many memories.

I know!! It's just a nickname!!!

Update

Today was very productive, and I mean very. I was able to update my profile on a dating site and add some pictures; and by doing this, I was able to get able of hits/messages from guys! I went back redid my profile basically. I wrote a lot and made it clear that my relationship with God was important. A lot of guys told me that they admired this in me. And every time I would update a part of my profile, my profile what pop up in their news feed, thus making more people notice me. Same thing happened with my pictures, every time I uploaded one, more attention I received. So, basic pointers: make sure your profile tells people who you are, elaborate and don't be afraid to be truthful, people like that, and make sure your pictures show off your personality and your favorite features (does this mean pictures of your boobs or butt? no, your smile, eyes, hair, etc).

It's hard though, say what? Yeah it is, and confusing. When a multitude of guys message you at the same time, you kinda go WWHHAAATTT?? And need to take a breather. Oh, and when a guy from your past finds you and tells you they miss you..thats when you go SAY WWHHAATT?!?.. Anyway, so far it's been a learning experience. I think I may have met some potentials :) yay me.

Dating -sigh- Online

Ok, so recently I have joined two dating sites (yeah, I know: say whaatt??) and decided to give meeting someone online another try (didn't work out the first time). And let me tell you it's hard, it's not as easy it as it looks.

First, I don't know what to write about myself; like really, what can you write that will attract people to you? In my case, apparently whatever I write I attract an older crowd; really, come on!! No matter what I write on there, I either get NO RESPONSE (has been two days, even though I have patience with everything else, I have none here) or I get guys that are older than me (wwwaaaayyyy older, can I get a say WWHHAATT??). Is it something that I am writing or not writing about myself? What does it take to get noticed on line?

Second, I have a distinct feeling that men lie on line. They're profile pictures do not, I repeat DO NOT reflect their profile information. Come on, why like about your age? Or your favorite book to read (long story). I was honest in my profile, why is it so hard to be honest back?

Third, like I said before, I do not have the patience for this. My friend's on the other hand are enjoying themselves; mostly because they want to see me happy with someone, and have me cared for and loved. Ugh, but I don't have the time to find someone. I wish he would just fall out the sky, haha; an alien, yeah that's gonna happen. Why can't it be someone I already have a relationship with? No scratch that, my guys friends are either a-holes or really good friends, who's friendships I do not want to lose; I've already lost one because of that, now I see his face everywhere..even on online dating sites. I am a mess.

This is what will keep me going, the belief that I will find someone..somewhere..eventually, right?

To delete or not to delete? o.O

Going over some of my Facebook friends and their posts, I asked myself repeated, "Why am I friends with them on here?" There is no response, because well I am asking myself and because its the "just in case factor" or others may see it as the "stalking factor." Latter being a way to see what the Facebook friend is doing, going through their pictures, etc and the former being just in case you run into them, there's no awkwardness; "I was going to message you on Facebook but couldn't find you." How do you nicely say, "Yes, that is because I deleted you, since you know we really don't talk and I recently found out that I don't like you." There is no easy way, or nice.

So yeah, there's just some people on my "Book" that I would rather not be connected to. I don't want to see their updates, status posts (lame), pictures (really though?), etc. Maybe I don't want them as a reminder of other people. Quite frankly, I do not wan to see details of their stupid behaviors and or deeds. Hmm, now I just sound mean and as though I am just cranky and want to vent. Just tired of all the B.S.

I watched Powder today, can't remember the last time I watched it. It touched me, and made me think; sure it's a movie and a person like Powder can not possibly exist, but what if he could? Would we have the same re-actions portrayed by the actors, be afraid of him and hate him? Just plain sad. This is my favorite quote from the movie, and it is true..we just need to try.

"And how beautiful they really are. And that there's no need to hide, or lie. And that it's possible to talk to someone without any lies, with no sarcasms, no deceptions, no exaggerations or any of the things that people use to confuse the truth." Powder, 1995

Friends

The thing about friends, you can't have just the one; because through one you'll meet others, network, make connections, develop relationships and wha-la, you have a whole bunch of friends. But then again, the definition or the requirements for being considered a friend differs from person to person; so one person's idea of a close friend can be someone else's definition of an acquaintance.

That being said, my friends are the type that you can't live with them but then again, you can't really live without them. They are the definition of best friends and kindred spirits, the definition of sisters. I know mushy and touchy right, but its the truth and I thank God that they're in my life. And are they ever in my life; involved in almost everything I do. Supportive, destructive, protective, lazy, heartfelt, strong and all mine. Oh and very critical of my motives and intentions, not sure if I really like that part. I am who I am, everyday I change and grow; I learn who I am and who God wants me to be, so it's ok if it may not be what they expect or want. Thats what makes having friends fun, because friends aren't suppose to be copies of each other but rather the alternative reality versions of ourselves; slightly different, while at the same time having the same familiarity.

But then again, this is only my second post...and I am slightly sleep deprived listening to Justin Bieber (I like the lyrics of the songs). Oh well, here's to the next one, say whhaatt??!?

greetings

I have finally joined the thousands, if not millions, of people that have blogs; why? Simply because I had a sudden urge to share my thoughts, my views, my feelings; Facebook was too small of an outlet for me and Twitter is not an option (keeping people updated on my daily activities is a little too much). This may seem like an impulse decision, and it may very well be but it is not as severe as my last impulse decision which was to cut my hair. I liked the hair cut, but I had mixed reviews from those around me.

So, I offer a greetings and salutations to the virtual blogging world. I hope you're ready to say WHHAATT??!?